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Thursday, July 30, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
How to handle negativity!
Some might view life as if it were a bowl of cherries. In my reality life is like a cherry itself. I like to say “take a bite out of life and enjoy the sweet taste of fruit.” Yes I am aware that sometimes you may get a sour cherry, which would be likened to a difficult life, but hey, at least you got one, and that is the negative and positive of living. At the end of the day, it is you who has to make the best of it.
I am a person who likes to keep things real. Even though reality may suggest negativity to some degree, I believe it is still possible to focus on the positive even when the negative is as clear as day.
Recognizing the negatives for what they are is the first step to removing them.
Since negative is a force which bestows heavy unenthusiastic energy, when it is part of your environment, through friends and family, the negativity can inadvertently block your opportunity to advance. So in order to take advantage of the blessings within your destiny sometimes it is more beneficial to sacrifice and let go of the negative influences, to gain positive energy, and eventually attain monumental success.
Moreover staying away from negative people who are unwilling to recognize their own ignorance is imperative. Negative does not imply they are mean and miserable. In fact the individual(s) could be kind, but negative could still affect their energy just by their pain, confusion, loneliness, argumentativeness, or even greed. If they have an unwillingness to change, then at one point it will eventually have an effect on you.
More importantly negativity can quickly over power the positive if you allow it to. For example, if you take on negative energy by engaging someone in an argument and one of you say something hurtful obviously negative energy will be stirred, and may result in deeper conflict. Remember too that resentment, fighting and dissatisfaction all stir negativity, it is precisely what causes misery and eventually a depressed person.
It is not always the best idea to completely disconnect from them. As we all know burning bridges is not the wisest thing to do. So perhaps ICE then for a minute because after all their negative energy can not kill you. At worse it can affect your mood and alter your life, but at the end of the day you can always control that. Keep them at arms length, treat them with respect, but also realize that this person is not someone you can learn from or necessarily grow with.
More importantly, remaining within the negative energy will only create the possibility to manifest more negativity. Ever notice when you got upset at someone or something and all of a sudden you stub your toe, hurt your finger, spill a drink on yourself, text the incorrect recipient or something else ‘negative’ happens? Well that is because you made the choice to focus on the negative by getting sour, and now gave permission for negative to attach itself to your energy. So it is always best to acknowledge that things will not always go your way, some people you have to keep as acquaintances as opposed to a close friend or lover, and in most situations negativity will be removed if you identify it in time.
As I live my life in a ‘real’ sort of way, I find acceptance and understanding to be great tools in getting me to a better place with mind/body/soul. Understanding has been like a confidant to me. It has guided me away from emotional discord and disappointment. When things do not pan out perfectly for me, then I know when to take a bow and move forward.
Also, acceptance has become a close friend too. Through acceptance I have learned that life has its little lessons for big reasons. For me, learning to embrace the complicated situations in my world has served its purpose. In order to learn from them, and grow from them I had to accept them, and this has made me wiser, plus strong enough to cut off the negative influence once I identify it.
~Written by Cerise~
Focusing on positive more than negative helps to enhance the positive until eventually the negative becomes obsolete or unimportant. Choosing to hold on to negative without trying to change it is like expecting to drink a cold glass of water, but only gulping sand.
I am a person who likes to keep things real. Even though reality may suggest negativity to some degree, I believe it is still possible to focus on the positive even when the negative is as clear as day.
Recognizing the negatives for what they are is the first step to removing them.
Since negative is a force which bestows heavy unenthusiastic energy, when it is part of your environment, through friends and family, the negativity can inadvertently block your opportunity to advance. So in order to take advantage of the blessings within your destiny sometimes it is more beneficial to sacrifice and let go of the negative influences, to gain positive energy, and eventually attain monumental success.
Moreover staying away from negative people who are unwilling to recognize their own ignorance is imperative. Negative does not imply they are mean and miserable. In fact the individual(s) could be kind, but negative could still affect their energy just by their pain, confusion, loneliness, argumentativeness, or even greed. If they have an unwillingness to change, then at one point it will eventually have an effect on you.
More importantly negativity can quickly over power the positive if you allow it to. For example, if you take on negative energy by engaging someone in an argument and one of you say something hurtful obviously negative energy will be stirred, and may result in deeper conflict. Remember too that resentment, fighting and dissatisfaction all stir negativity, it is precisely what causes misery and eventually a depressed person.
It is not always the best idea to completely disconnect from them. As we all know burning bridges is not the wisest thing to do. So perhaps ICE then for a minute because after all their negative energy can not kill you. At worse it can affect your mood and alter your life, but at the end of the day you can always control that. Keep them at arms length, treat them with respect, but also realize that this person is not someone you can learn from or necessarily grow with.
More importantly, remaining within the negative energy will only create the possibility to manifest more negativity. Ever notice when you got upset at someone or something and all of a sudden you stub your toe, hurt your finger, spill a drink on yourself, text the incorrect recipient or something else ‘negative’ happens? Well that is because you made the choice to focus on the negative by getting sour, and now gave permission for negative to attach itself to your energy. So it is always best to acknowledge that things will not always go your way, some people you have to keep as acquaintances as opposed to a close friend or lover, and in most situations negativity will be removed if you identify it in time.
As I live my life in a ‘real’ sort of way, I find acceptance and understanding to be great tools in getting me to a better place with mind/body/soul. Understanding has been like a confidant to me. It has guided me away from emotional discord and disappointment. When things do not pan out perfectly for me, then I know when to take a bow and move forward.
Also, acceptance has become a close friend too. Through acceptance I have learned that life has its little lessons for big reasons. For me, learning to embrace the complicated situations in my world has served its purpose. In order to learn from them, and grow from them I had to accept them, and this has made me wiser, plus strong enough to cut off the negative influence once I identify it.
~Written by Cerise~
Focusing on positive more than negative helps to enhance the positive until eventually the negative becomes obsolete or unimportant. Choosing to hold on to negative without trying to change it is like expecting to drink a cold glass of water, but only gulping sand.
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Spectacular Subliminal!
Okay, so I’m chilling on my comfy bed, thinking about the event I
attended the other night, and I think my sister coined it right when she
said “Subliminal’s performance was Spectacular!”
Wowers was it ever Spectacular! The kind of show Subliminal gave is one
that imprints an embossed wonderful memory in the mind. Believe me people,
check out my facebook album, you will see the pic’s! June 30th-2009 at
Premium lounge will forever be unforgettable.
One of my favourite parts of Subliminal’s performance was when he
requested a volunteer from the audience. Of course I offered. As I
proceeded to the stage I felt no pressure, just pure positive energy from
the crowd, and Subliminal himself erased any additional nervousness by
comforting me with welcoming vibes coming from his soulful aura.
By the way, lol, as his volunteer I had to beat box!!! He gave me a little
lesson, I did my thing, and he made a song on the spot with my beat box
sample!!! Amazing Eh!!!
Friends, this event was so enjoyable it prompted me to write this piece on
my laptop, still as I’m in my bed. If you get a chance to see his
performance then you should really hit one. His lyrics are conscious, real
and understandable. He’s not talking stuff that doesn’t matter.
Subliminal expresses his soul, harmonizing the facts of life, his life, and
the universe.
He certainly is an artist you will appreciate. Did I say he’s Canadian?
Well yeah he Rep’s for us.
With his flare for ol school sounds and revolutionary melodically
harmonizing tones, it is clear Subliminal knows his music, and he is
passionate about it too.
As a matter of fact, all the songs on the album ‘Trainathought’ where
written, arranged, produced and performed by a.k.a Subliminal.
It’s a hot CD for real. If you like soul, lyrics and pure positive vibes,
then tune into Subliminal. Hey my 14year old son can finally listen to an album from the first song all the way to the end and without having to deal with me rolling my eyes, or having to censor his musical selection.
After the show I was on cloud nine, but I did have a moment of brilliance
and smartly purchased his CD ‘Trainathought’. I’ve been listening to
him the whole time as I was writing this. I’ve been nodding my head,
shaking my toes, even took a second to add a little shoulder movement
during track 15, lol, I’m loving the CD J. Truly Refreshing.
Last but not least, in the CD cover-sleeve, Subliminal thanks all his
supporters by saying “Thank you SOUL much” nicely put Subliminal.
Check out his my space at www.myspace.com/akasubliminal .
Check out his you tube at www.youtube.com/akasubliminal
Check out his twitter at www.twitter.com/akasubliminal
Free download of the single "Crazy"
www.mcjb.com/akasubliminal
Monday, July 13, 2009
Written By Andrew Kent
My Personal Tribute
to Michael Jackson and his children
Michael Jackson may have been the King of Pop to me and the world, however today as I was watching his Memorial Tribute I grew emotional at the thought that his children would never see their father again. You see I am only 4 months older than Michael and he and I were the same age when he grew to stardom. I have idolized him since he and I were 10. I’ve tried to unsuccessfully dance like him and would never sing cos I cannot. He will always be a star to me. The thing about today’s tribute that hurt and touched me the most was when his daughter, Paris, wanted to speak. When she referred to her father as she should have, Daddy, and cried, I, too, broke into uncontrollable tears, why because as dad myself I could only think back to this time last year when I was very very sick and actually died, albeit for 23 minutes, I never said goodbye to my only daughter, my little Princess, Fredi. I thank, Father, however, for bringing me back to life so I can spend the rest of my life with my daughter, my 15 y.o. daughter, who is my life.
She has inspired me from the time she was two, having gone through open heart surgery and survived. She has grown into a beautiful spirit, a warm, loving, caring young lady.
Paris Jackson, your daddy loved you very very much and always will. You will also be in my heart as I cannot get your face out of my mind.
My message to my daughter, Michael’s daughter and all the other daughters in the world,
Fredi Kent, Paris Jackson, I love you and always will. You will forever be in my heart and I will do everything in my power to keep you from hurt.
Michael, you are and always will be a very special person, in my mind. You made me smile with your music and you will always be in my heart.
Father help Michael Heal the World from your house now.
Rest in Peace, Michael. I love you!
Anz, July 7, 2009
to Michael Jackson and his children
Michael Jackson may have been the King of Pop to me and the world, however today as I was watching his Memorial Tribute I grew emotional at the thought that his children would never see their father again. You see I am only 4 months older than Michael and he and I were the same age when he grew to stardom. I have idolized him since he and I were 10. I’ve tried to unsuccessfully dance like him and would never sing cos I cannot. He will always be a star to me. The thing about today’s tribute that hurt and touched me the most was when his daughter, Paris, wanted to speak. When she referred to her father as she should have, Daddy, and cried, I, too, broke into uncontrollable tears, why because as dad myself I could only think back to this time last year when I was very very sick and actually died, albeit for 23 minutes, I never said goodbye to my only daughter, my little Princess, Fredi. I thank, Father, however, for bringing me back to life so I can spend the rest of my life with my daughter, my 15 y.o. daughter, who is my life.
She has inspired me from the time she was two, having gone through open heart surgery and survived. She has grown into a beautiful spirit, a warm, loving, caring young lady.
Paris Jackson, your daddy loved you very very much and always will. You will also be in my heart as I cannot get your face out of my mind.
My message to my daughter, Michael’s daughter and all the other daughters in the world,
Fredi Kent, Paris Jackson, I love you and always will. You will forever be in my heart and I will do everything in my power to keep you from hurt.
Michael, you are and always will be a very special person, in my mind. You made me smile with your music and you will always be in my heart.
Father help Michael Heal the World from your house now.
Rest in Peace, Michael. I love you!
Anz, July 7, 2009
Monday, July 6, 2009
Peach and Lemon! Scrap it out in the office.
Last week a friend of mine had an issue at work with a coworker. Well actually this person was not really a 'coworker', but a subordinate. Okay so this is what happened. My friend, we'll call her Peach, is the supervisor of this other woman, who we'll call Lemon. Peach has been working with a high profile company for over seven years now, and for the last two years Lemon has been working under her.
The other day Peach emailed a memo to her team explaining the expectations pertaining to a new project they had recently obtained. This project is worth millions, so of course many executives are keeping their eyes on the account and creating certain provisions in order to make sure everything rolls according to contract.
When Lemon got the memo she was irate. She felt Peach was trying to tell her how to operate her own position, and felt the 'rules' outlined in the memo were ridiculous and undermining, so she was not about to have someone else tell her how to do her work. Especially not now after two years of working for the company.
One thing she didn't realize though, the memo Peach sent out was not something she wrote herself, it was given to her from management and it was merely her duty to pass it on to her team. Lemon not knowing that, but only seeing her blind rage and feeling her deep seeded resentment for Peach responded to her email by saying the following:
"I know my job well by now, and if I didn't I'm sure I would have been let go a long time ago. for the last two years you have been micromanaging me and I am tired of your over barring ways. I think I can speak for the team when I say you offer too much help to us and you are always checking up on us like we are babies. The expectations you have outlined in your memo are completely absurd, and i will not follow those 'rules'. This account is new and yes even worth millions, but you are making too much out of this and placing too much of a demand on your team. I know I am a valued employee, and I feel my voice will be heard loud and clear when Management is Carbon Copied this emailed. I would rather quit than to do my work as outlined in your memo."
And with that Lemon sent out the email, carbon copying all management. Management replied, and they basically told her to clean out her desk. They noted in the email that they only value employees who can meet the demands outlined in the memo.
Today when Peach got in the office she was given a promotion on the account to Senior Manager. Her boss said he likes someone who has micromanagement skills.
So be careful when you complain, just because you have opinion it does not make you correct.
The other day Peach emailed a memo to her team explaining the expectations pertaining to a new project they had recently obtained. This project is worth millions, so of course many executives are keeping their eyes on the account and creating certain provisions in order to make sure everything rolls according to contract.
When Lemon got the memo she was irate. She felt Peach was trying to tell her how to operate her own position, and felt the 'rules' outlined in the memo were ridiculous and undermining, so she was not about to have someone else tell her how to do her work. Especially not now after two years of working for the company.
One thing she didn't realize though, the memo Peach sent out was not something she wrote herself, it was given to her from management and it was merely her duty to pass it on to her team. Lemon not knowing that, but only seeing her blind rage and feeling her deep seeded resentment for Peach responded to her email by saying the following:
"I know my job well by now, and if I didn't I'm sure I would have been let go a long time ago. for the last two years you have been micromanaging me and I am tired of your over barring ways. I think I can speak for the team when I say you offer too much help to us and you are always checking up on us like we are babies. The expectations you have outlined in your memo are completely absurd, and i will not follow those 'rules'. This account is new and yes even worth millions, but you are making too much out of this and placing too much of a demand on your team. I know I am a valued employee, and I feel my voice will be heard loud and clear when Management is Carbon Copied this emailed. I would rather quit than to do my work as outlined in your memo."
And with that Lemon sent out the email, carbon copying all management. Management replied, and they basically told her to clean out her desk. They noted in the email that they only value employees who can meet the demands outlined in the memo.
Today when Peach got in the office she was given a promotion on the account to Senior Manager. Her boss said he likes someone who has micromanagement skills.
So be careful when you complain, just because you have opinion it does not make you correct.
Friday, July 3, 2009
This article I wrote was published on Woman.ca...check it out when you have a moment.
Self-Love in a Time of Economic Dispair
Tuesday, April 28, 2009 Posted in Wellness - Health & Well-Being
E-mail comment on this item
When the "State of the Union" Gets Personal
altIn today’s society many leading worrisome issues are enough to paralyze most people, and especially those who are already feeling deep emotions of despair. More importantly, even though they may be at their darkest point it is still possible to get out of the shadows and into the light. However, because each person’s situation is unique in and of itself, it's difficult to analyze and find a cure to their personal demon stealing away their joy.
Specialists feel they have found the cause and cure, and have chalked it up as depression, and also for many years have offered pills as the cure to make things ‘better’, but for some it has only made the condition worse.
More increasing these days some folks are freely calling their lack of motivation the ‘disease’ of depression. While at the same time, angrily complaining and making excuses why life is not going well for them, and they are not realizing it is precisely their acceptance of the ‘disease’ that has completely crippled them from gaining their optimal success.
Most of the complaints made by clinically depressed people are legitimate, because some of the cases are severe. Some cases of depression could involve traumatic abuse during childhood, causing a sense of inner sadness, which has now affected the person detrimentally in their adult years. A faulty marriage could drain anyone emotionally, leaving them feeling lost and insignificant. Moreover, these days people are feeling the financial strain, and due to the economical pressure, are finding it difficult to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Actually, between career chores and taking care of home responsibilities, life has become one big duty, and for some life is harder to take pleasure in.
On the other hand, if someone who is sad takes just a moment, especially in a moment of darkness, to understand their weaknesses and appreciate their strengths, no matter how insignificant they may seem, then eventually your weaknesses will become strengths as well. Then it is precisely those weaknesses, which become extra strength that will lead you out of despair.
First, just simply accept the inevitable negatives in life as learning curves, ways in which you can experience ups and downs and grow from them. Even if the experience leaves you feeling horrible, just draw from it what lessons you can and move forward.
Overall, you will be more knowledgeable and ready to take on any challenge life has to offer. You will also gain a deeper understanding that ‘sad’ or ‘uncomfortable’ times does not equate to depression, it simply means you need to find new meaning in your life.
These days and all too often, individuals seem to be forgetting about “self-love” and inner fulfillment. Instead they are more willing to beat themselves up, web their thoughts into a mental spiral of negativity, and accept defeat, but in the end blame it all on depression as the culprit. Do not be one of the masses who give in to the disease of the day just to accept demise and shallowness. Instead live with depth, culture your mind, free your thoughts and inspire your soul. Embrace your life and encourage your destiny. Many others can help you, but at the end of the day, it is only you who can fix you.
By Cerise Fairfax
Tuesday, April 28, 2009 Posted in Wellness - Health & Well-Being
E-mail comment on this item
When the "State of the Union" Gets Personal
altIn today’s society many leading worrisome issues are enough to paralyze most people, and especially those who are already feeling deep emotions of despair. More importantly, even though they may be at their darkest point it is still possible to get out of the shadows and into the light. However, because each person’s situation is unique in and of itself, it's difficult to analyze and find a cure to their personal demon stealing away their joy.
Specialists feel they have found the cause and cure, and have chalked it up as depression, and also for many years have offered pills as the cure to make things ‘better’, but for some it has only made the condition worse.
More increasing these days some folks are freely calling their lack of motivation the ‘disease’ of depression. While at the same time, angrily complaining and making excuses why life is not going well for them, and they are not realizing it is precisely their acceptance of the ‘disease’ that has completely crippled them from gaining their optimal success.
Most of the complaints made by clinically depressed people are legitimate, because some of the cases are severe. Some cases of depression could involve traumatic abuse during childhood, causing a sense of inner sadness, which has now affected the person detrimentally in their adult years. A faulty marriage could drain anyone emotionally, leaving them feeling lost and insignificant. Moreover, these days people are feeling the financial strain, and due to the economical pressure, are finding it difficult to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Actually, between career chores and taking care of home responsibilities, life has become one big duty, and for some life is harder to take pleasure in.
On the other hand, if someone who is sad takes just a moment, especially in a moment of darkness, to understand their weaknesses and appreciate their strengths, no matter how insignificant they may seem, then eventually your weaknesses will become strengths as well. Then it is precisely those weaknesses, which become extra strength that will lead you out of despair.
First, just simply accept the inevitable negatives in life as learning curves, ways in which you can experience ups and downs and grow from them. Even if the experience leaves you feeling horrible, just draw from it what lessons you can and move forward.
Overall, you will be more knowledgeable and ready to take on any challenge life has to offer. You will also gain a deeper understanding that ‘sad’ or ‘uncomfortable’ times does not equate to depression, it simply means you need to find new meaning in your life.
These days and all too often, individuals seem to be forgetting about “self-love” and inner fulfillment. Instead they are more willing to beat themselves up, web their thoughts into a mental spiral of negativity, and accept defeat, but in the end blame it all on depression as the culprit. Do not be one of the masses who give in to the disease of the day just to accept demise and shallowness. Instead live with depth, culture your mind, free your thoughts and inspire your soul. Embrace your life and encourage your destiny. Many others can help you, but at the end of the day, it is only you who can fix you.
By Cerise Fairfax
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